About Me

I get curious about what it is that people would like to know about me. My conditioning tells me I’m really not that interesting. But when I speak with my circles, with my friends and clients and teachers, I hear a different story…

You could say, I’m one to show up, feel the fear, and do it anyway.

Honestly? It does not feel that easy when in the clutches of making difficult life decisions!

I’m a country girl and grew up on a beef cattle farm up in North East Victoria, Australia. I am the youngest of 3 siblings and as at the time of writing this, currently live in Ubud, Bali.

My father was an alcoholic and my childhood not ideal for the cultivation of a fully functioning adult who needs to navigate the complexities of our modern world (so I have learned on my personal development journey).

But I understand why my father was the way he was, and I choose not to play victim to the childhood scars I, and my siblings, bear as a result.

I have spent, up until late 2022, a lifetime in the accounting and finance world supporting small business owners across Australia with bookkeeping and compliance work, ensuring their numbers were up to speed so they could rely upon them to make informed decisions about their future direction.

Like a lot of people, the spread of COVID-19 affected me in many ways, but the most significant being the personal growth journey I underwent during the years of lockdowns and social restrictions.

Amazing things can happen when you learn to be comfortable in your own company!

The most cataclysmic event in my life, the one that turned it upside down and inside out, wasn’t actually the break down of my marriage and 17 year relationship in 2016, it was in fact, a Tinder relationship gone wrong a few years later.

I fell pray to a narcissist who, to put it bluntly, really did a number on me and when I realised how toxic I had become, how miserable and anxious and desperate – I woke up, broke free of him and hid away from the world for a while, licking my wounds and asking that age old question – Why?

Without turning this into a novel – Tinder Man was exactly what I needed to create an awareness around behavioural science and emotional intelligence. And how we can consciously choose our own journey’s once we understand our past on a deeper level.

I know why I became a raving, drunken, desperate woman – it was a combination of the emotional abandonment from my father (he wasn’t capable) and the experiences I had during my marriage (another day) but together, I had this urgency to cling to any kind of male affection I could, and would panic and be triggered when there was a threat it was going to be taken away.

So, taking a journey to understanding why I was reacting in such a way, enabled me to unravel the problem and work on coping strategies that kept me OUT of that survival adaptation, that negative behaviour. I learned to self soothe, I learned what I needed, and developed ways to provide it for myself. Rather than relying on men to fill that void (I may have purchased a life sized teddy bear and named him George for a time, he was the BEST cuddler)

My personal journey has led me to a place where I am now helping others ‘wake up’ and learn how to unravel their own undesirable behaviours and thinking patterns.

I help them understand the science behind our minds and our bodies, how our nervous system works and how the world has shaped us into who we are now. Most importantly – I help them unravel all those belief patterns and find their true authentic selves, take back control of their lives and be intentional on how they want to live.

If you’re curious about my formal training and qualifications, please visit my Virtual Certificate Wall.

If you’re curious and feeling a little aligned with my story and can resonate with aspects of my journey, I encourage you to reach out and connect if you’d like to be supported in your own growth and development 🌸